avanta7 | Re-thinking church

So I've had my membership at St Mark's UMC for the last year and a half or so. I like this congregation a lot. Their "politics" and world view are progressive and welcoming. They truly practice the Methodist slogan "Open hearts, open minds, open doors." And it's a reconciling congregation, which is important to me.

But due to the distance (over 40 miles, and about 1 hour's drive), I've been a sporadic attendee to say the least. I might make choir rehearsal once a month, and maybe two Sunday services a month at best. With the prospect of adding children to our home in the near future, it looks like participation in this particular congregation is going to fall by the wayside -- it's just too far to drive several times a week for children's and adult activities.

You may remember I went to Sacramento because none of the churches in this immediate area was progressive enough to suit me. (I even considered switching denominations!) I doubt much has changed in the last 18 months.

Regardless, I'm considering transferring membership to Marysville First UMC. Conservative and fusty as it is, it's the closest Methodist church to home, and it will be much easier to maintain an active relationship there for me and the children. But I struggle with this. Can I compromise my progressive position in regard to the church's stance on GLBT and other social issues simply to make participation in church activities easier for my children? Will being raised in a conservative congregation teach my children intolerance? What happens if the minister preaches a sermon with which I disagree vehemently?

Spouse is not a believer so all religious education decisions are left to me; our compromise over the issue: when the children reach their majority, they can decide whether or not to continue. And when asked about this issue, he says, "Do what you think best." *sigh*

I'm open to suggestions, advice, criticism and/or a kick in the pants.